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Barbara Jones's avatar

That must be a difficult situation. I would seek out an organization such as the League of Women Voters or ask your trusted neighbor whom she confides in and make a little group to meet once a month and analyze the Trump agenda. It does help to have some support for what YOU think. Have you heard of Braver Angels? -- they give tools for dialogue between red and blue. Also if you are really brave, just ask what one of your neighbors sees in Trump that is so positive and listen politely. The bedrock is usually racism, fear of any differences (immigrants), trashing the "woke" (reevaluating our "history") agenda. Best of luck and courage.

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Maria Chamberlain's avatar

Barbara, I appreciate your response, but you do not understand at all. This is Republican territory! Period! People around here would not care what either candidate thinks- it is Republican! When my parents were dividing property, they had well over 170 guns. My sister and brother were Republicans and I was not. As a result, I was given 2 guns, with them knowing full well that I had 3 children. I had to give up the one pistol I owned to make sure that my children did not know what jerks my parents were. Stop telling me how to fix it because you DO NOT UNDERSTAND! I am 75 years old and it has not changed since I was a child. It never will, and I will not be moving again, so it is what it is.

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Barbara Jones's avatar

OK, I will back off. This is beyond my pay-grade! Keep your courage and keep your one fellow Democrat for support.

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Maria Chamberlain's avatar

BARBARA, PLEASE DO NOT BACK OFF- JUST CHANGE YOUR TRAJECTORY A LITTLE. I NEED SUPPORT, JUST NOT ADVICE, BECAUSE THERE IS NOT A SINGLE PERSON ON EARTH WHO KNOWS MY SITUATION I have never been loved- my Mother told me as a child that I ruined her life by being born. I am now 75 and I need friends. Please just speak with me- do not tell me what to do or think, just let us get to know each other as people. Can we do that ?I think that you are a special person and I would really like to get to know you!

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Judith L Hubbard's avatar

Maria, I believe you subscribe to my musings, not yet full on newsletters because I am not tech savvy enough to do so.

You have my support for what help it may be. I identify completely with your situation being told by my father that I ruined his life by being born! My family such as they are have discarded me as they are full blown MAGA crazy imbeciles. I am 77 and homebound with mobility impairments that limit completely my ability to leave my house without the help of my caretaker who happens to be a Black pastor of his own church. ⛪️ I reside in blood red SC and am completely stuck here with my darling stress relievers, 😽😽 Sophie and Claire. I am a cancer research nurse

retired here at the request of my family so they could assist when my disabilities became apparent. As is obvious, that was a decision I regret in every bone of my body (hindsight is so very clear.) I worked as a volunteer in animal rescue but those “friends” abandoned me quickly when my disabilities advanced and I was unable to help physically or donate more money to their rescues. I can ? talk if you like although my voice is leaving me too with other body parts!

Send me your email and perhaps we could prop up one another during this most harrowing time. Wait, think if I look at subscribers on line perhaps I can find you! 🕊️

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Judith L Hubbard's avatar

Got it from my dashboard! Must be getting more tech savvy! Very late ⏰ so will write ✍️ in am, I see we read many of the same authors. Rest easy! You have a friend in this shaky universe!

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Maria Chamberlain's avatar

((((((((((((((((((((((Judith)))))))))))))))))) :)

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Judith L Hubbard's avatar

Hmmm….three “old ladies” trapped in MAGA world not of our choosing. Some have options to relocate, be physically active in community resistance while I for one cannot. I believe community is the way out but not available to some of us. The younger generations will find their way; do you read Dash Dabrovsky? (Sp?) He’s a breath of fresh air, a young man with spunk. Best of luck to all of us in the Trump World we continue to RESIST. 🕊️

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Barbara Jones's avatar

I am sorry but I can not continue to have these exchanges. I hope you give yourself the love you deserve. We all need to love ourselves. I am proud of you for holding your own against those difficult family odds. Let's all listen to Heather. She is a bright light of reason and thoughtfulness. That helps

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Maria Chamberlain's avatar

OK Barbara- I wish you well! It would have been nice to learn from someone with a different perspective. and I had hopes of learning and being friends, but I will honor your wishes and I wish you well! Goodbye!

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Barbara Jones's avatar

Well, I think you HAVE found a potential friend in Judith Hubbard so may the two of you share info. and support one another in that weird MAGA environment. Best of courage and luck.

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Barbara Jones's avatar

I just have trouble following the logic here. I meant the 2 of you can support one another on line because you are surrounded by the weird MAGA folks and you can support each other against TRUMP!! That is what you have in COMMON with Judith Hubbard. I'm 82 so . . . ! Again best of luck.

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Maria Chamberlain's avatar

Okay, Barbara, I obviously misunderstood and we obviously have different communication methods, but I think we agree on How horrible Trump is. I wish you the VERY best in life and I will find other methods to express myself more effectively. Take care of yourself and I hope you do well!

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