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Roland (CA->WA)'s avatar

We call it “ships passing in the night.” I get home from work around 4 a.m., then in the afternoon I’m up and about and gearing up while my wife is winding down. Ah well, like someone else said, we’re both introverts so it serves us well. For now. Retirement is coming up, then things will change.

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Joan Friedman (MA, from NY)'s avatar

After my dad “retired,” he became an inventor and worked from home. One day I asked where Mom was. He didn’t know. In response to my raised eyebrows, Dad said they had married “for better or for worse, but not for lunch.” My parents had a storybook happy marriage for 71 years.

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Lynell(VA by way of MD&DC)'s avatar

Your father's response: priceless!

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TPJ (MA)'s avatar

Lynell 100%. Joan, I wish I could have hung out with your dad.

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Joan Friedman (MA, from NY)'s avatar

He was a wonderful man. I miss him, a lot.

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Lynell(VA by way of MD&DC)'s avatar

Morning, Roland!! You, an introvert? Wow!!

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MaryB of Pasadena's avatar

Good morning, Lynell! I always enjoy reading your comments. It’s early morning here and this introvert is savoring my alone time with Heather and you all before facing the day and an awake (as opposed to woke) husband. I love to be around people and often try to make them laugh, so folks think I’m an extrovert. Truth is, this both delights and then exhausts me. I need to refuel by being alone.

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Lynell(VA by way of MD&DC)'s avatar

Morning, MaryB!! Sometimes my comments fall short, but thanks for reading anyway. I, too, like that still of early morning when we can dive deeply into HCR's Letters and then read the perspectives of all of us. And I've been told I make people laugh, but I'm pretty sure it's not the same as the way you make them laugh!

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br's avatar

You are both marvelous!

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FERN MCBRIDE (NYC)'s avatar

br, happy to see you on screen and for the compliment. I always look for your astute comments.

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Lynell(VA by way of MD&DC)'s avatar

With those lower case letters of yours, br, I feel compelled to check your level of self-esteem, or I need to get a new pair of glasses!

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br's avatar

Some of us out in this great big world are, simply put, 'little'...I've learned it's ok to be an indian, we can't all be chiefs! Or rock stars! My path in life is to be a worker bee and to be of service to others. And I'm ok with that. I am very glad to have come across LFAA. as I have said before, it gives me food for thought and balm for the soul. It is such an outstanding community, intelligent and FUNNY! I learn so much. I am deeply grateful. YOUR GLASSES ARE FINE! I've been 'br' for 46 years.

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Lynell(VA by way of MD&DC)'s avatar

No offense was intended, br, as I am content to be an Indian, too. Enjoy the rest of your Sunday!

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br's avatar

You and FERN remind me of Bob Hope and Bing Crosby! Now that's a compliment!

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Lynell(VA by way of MD&DC)'s avatar

Now you're making me laugh, br, but I'll take it, thank you very much!

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FERN MCBRIDE (NYC)'s avatar

GLASSES, CAN YOU READ THIS?

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Lynell(VA by way of MD&DC)'s avatar

Uh, can you bold it up a little? That'd be perfect!

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TPJ (MA)'s avatar

Your rhyming has good timing.

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FERN MCBRIDE (NYC)'s avatar

I beg your pardon. What are you talking about? I for one, laugh with you!

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Lynell(VA by way of MD&DC)'s avatar

That's two more thank-you's going to your in-basket, Fern!

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TPJ (MA)'s avatar

Morning Lynell!! Laughing with you, not at you.

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Lynell(VA by way of MD&DC)'s avatar

TPJ, it's you we depend on to make us laugh...accompanied by song every now and again, which always lifts my spirits.

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Mitzi's avatar

Awake not woke😂🙏🏼

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Adker(Adirondacks—NY)'s avatar

Agree with Mitzi—that was funny!

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Roland (CA->WA)'s avatar

Good morning Lynell sweetheart. Yes, I am an introvert. Type 5 in the Enneagram. Loner and love my privacy. And a double Leo, go figure, probably only one in the world with that combination. It means I am a writer and investigator with social skills who no one would guess is a hermit; you’re not the first to be surprised, happens all the time.

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TPJ (MA)'s avatar

I looked up Enneagram which is new to me,, and Introvert is not among its nine "interconnected personality types." That sounds like an escape clause, not exactly (Max) Weberian ideal types. The Enneagram majority have positive or admirable traits, according well with my optimistic view of human nature, but I wonder how realistic it is. Again thanks to LFAAers, I know more and need to learn more.

https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/type-descriptions

https://www.yourarticlelibrary.com/sociology/webers-ideal-types-definition-meaning-purpose-and-use/43758

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FERN MCBRIDE (NYC)'s avatar

I checked out The Nine Enneagram Type Descriptions and couldn't find myself. Then I looked in the closest, of course!

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BetsyC (WA)'s avatar

I read the book "Quiet: the Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking" by Susan Cain. She has a story about a college professor so passionate about his subject matter than he's an extrovert in the classroom. Complete hermit when he retired.

I wish I had read this book while my spouse was still living. He was an introvert & this book explained a lot about how introverts prefer to deal with the world. I thought I was an extrovert, but I'm not...more in the middle (ambivert). My granddaughter who was born 9 months 2 weeks after my husband passed. She's got his introvertness...

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TPJ (MA)'s avatar

Yes, if "introverted" means considerate, communicative, quick-witted and articulate, then Roland is an introvert.

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FERN MCBRIDE (NYC)'s avatar

...and talkative?

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Joan Friedman (MA, from NY)'s avatar

Getting through the relative isolation of the year of COVID-19 (non-essential-worker) has definitely brought out my inner introvert, who has now rebelled against many of the zoom sessions that filled my time at first. Yesterday I walked and walked, soaking in the beauty of the flowering trees, and the pleasure of being alone without a shred of guilt over it. Same agenda for today - walking and reading - although with warmer clothes, as the temp dropped 20 degrees overnight.

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Lynell(VA by way of MD&DC)'s avatar

Morning, Joan!! You go, girl, with your walking and reading!

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FERN MCBRIDE (NYC)'s avatar

Thank you for the morning laugh, Lynell. You tell it well.

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Lynell(VA by way of MD&DC)'s avatar

Morning, Fern!! I'll see your thank you and raise you two more!

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TPJ (MA)'s avatar

Welcome back, man. LFAA has endured a break from Rolandiana in the last few days.

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