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Diane Love (St Petersburg FL)'s avatar

Cult members are not unlike addicts. They cling to the very thing that is destroying their lives. Peer pressure from other addicts/cultists perpetuates the cycle. I don’t believe attacking or shaming is useful.

When I talk to my Republican family members, I focus on issues that matter to them. When we find common ground I point it out. When we disagree, I don’t argue, I ask questions. By gently probing our differences I often learn something. Slowly, I’m trying to remove the toxicity and reactive comments. I don’t believe there is any quick fix.

I wonder if Biden is doing something similar on a national level.

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Liz Ayer, Nyc/MA's avatar

I think he’s looking for any possibility of bipartisanship and healing and his empathetic personality really helps.

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MaryPat's avatar

I agree totally, but invariably my first question to trumper relatives is "Whattareyou, Nuts?!" I could use some training.

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Diane Love (St Petersburg FL)'s avatar

Just deep breaths and patience. The only agenda I take into these conversations is to understand. I can usually diffuse a diatribe pretty quickly. If not I walk away. Everyone knows they can talk to me about anything, but, I won’t tolerate abusive language. It’s part of my nature and may not work for everyone.

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MaryPat's avatar

Thank You.

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MaryPat's avatar

My maiden name is from the French for "love." I will try to keep that and your wise counsel in mind, Ms. Love.

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