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This evening, as I was picking up a take-out order from one of my favourite restaurants in New Mexico, the manager said "Get out of here", to two MAGA customers, who may have been making comments about the waitress, a Hispanic woman, who was born and raised in the town where the restaurant was located. The two left in a hurry, jumped in their truck, and hightailed it out of the lot. This is a town that went for Trump, twice. The veneer is wearing thin.

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While I don't get out much, I find that sometimes the best talks are with people waiting in line.

Yesterday, the lines at Costco were long, so I struck up a conversation with a lady probably 10 years older than me.

I usually start by complimenting on a piece of jewelry (since I make jewelry) or maybe a shirt. I find that since I start out with a compliment, they are more willing to talk.

Anyway, she brought how she couldn't find her favorite can peaches and how she was a little upset and couldn't figure out why there was a problem with getting her peaches.

I remembered a story I had just read and so I told her that farmers are asking to change immigration rules so immigrants can come and pick her peaches. I said we need them.

She looked at me and after a moment, she smiled and said yes we do.

These are the short conversations I have with people I will probably never meet again.

This how I'm trying to do my part to help inform people.

And I think it's working at least a little.

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You're my hero. I want to be like you. You planted a seed in that woman's mind.

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In most instances once the "Bell" is rung it can never be un-rung, Eh!?

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Beth,

Totally agree—I’ve also had some of the best and surprising talks with people while waiting on line.

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This story yesterday on Here and Now about the Stanford study of 31000 people testing what works best to mend division in our country speaks to this method by Beth. Thank you Beth!

https://www.wbur.org/hereandnow/2022/09/06/strengthening-democracy-study

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Guess what!!! I called Professor Willer, thinking I would get a voice mail, and he answered!!! He didn't know about Heather and so far no contact with the Biden administration. But they are trying to make this happen. So I'm going email him and Heather to introduce them and see what she can do as she already is connect with the President. Thank you so much for this!!!!

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Chaplain!

Thank you for doing and sharing this — how wonderful.

Keeping the hope and faith, -Ashley

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Thank you Ashley! I love your "keeping the hope and faith," I'm very excited about this connection- at the very least they will know of one another. Here's the email I sent. I'm also creating a tweet to introduce the study. <3

Dear Heather,

I'm writing to introduce you to Professor Robb Willer of Stanford University, co-author of a study that was mentioned by Sandra in the comments to your newsletter 9/6. It is a mega study of interventions "designed to reduce anti-democratic attitudes and reduce partisan animosity." The study found that the interventions work!! (see links below to article and study )

So I called Professor Willer to ask if President Biden knew of this study and he answered the phone! He said, no, but they wanted him to, and asked if there's anything I can do to help with that. So I immediately thought of you!

I told Professor Willer about your newsletter and why it is so important to all of your readers, as well as about your interview with President Biden, and he was very interested in both. (see links below)

I know you are both so busy, but this study inspired a vision of a national program of community gatherings, bringing us together to recognize that the goodness of heart that we have in common is stronger than the factors that divide us. I believe that this is our best way to defeat the current wave of violent fascism invading our country, primarily stirred by the cynical money/power grabbers who know how to feed on fear.

This will require people of your stature to make it happen. I'll do whatever I can to help.

Blessings,

Terry Nicholetti

Chaplain at Large

https://bit.ly/2XxMECC

https://www.wbur.org/hereandnow/2022/09/06/strengthening-democracy-study

https://www.strengtheningdemocracychallenge.org/paper

https://heathercoxrichardson.substack.com/p/september-6-2022?r=eznl2&s=r&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=email

https://youtu.be/PRyaDw8B9qI

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Thank you, once again, Terry, for sharing your energizing efforts. Your email has my head and heart humming in harmony! 💙🤍❤️

PS: You and my mother share a name (same spelling, even!).

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Thank you Sandra! I want to know more about this statement in the article: " he finds that many aspects of social life that are often seen as antisocial or malicious - such as gossip, moral judgments, and status hierarchies - are fundamental to social order." That certainly is an eye opener for me - and a nudge to re think my automatic judgements.

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"Gossip," aka the grapevine, is an essential news source and probably always has been, especially for those marginalized by the supposedly legitimate media -- which is most of us. It puts the burden on each of us to be a reliable source, to recognize the reliability of sources, and to corroborate information before passing it on. Needless to say, plenty of people don't do this, or don't do it all the time, but in general those who consistently spread info that's malicious or just plain wrong eventually lose credibility. (I wish that would happen to Fox News and the GOP, among others. Maybe it is happening. We'll see.)

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Chaplain Terry Nicholetti

"...moral judgments...are fundamental to social order..."

An unpopular thought to ponder:

Is not such fundamentalism supported by Americans' exposure to the copiousness of our contemporary wisdoms of convention?

Can you imagine our social order, instead, being inspired by the wisdom of our FATHER in Heaven as taught throughout the many stories our Holy Bible, e. g. Matthew 7:1 & Luke 6:37, Etc., Etc., Etc.

Such love would surely better homogenize Americans into a safer more peaceful United States of America, Eh!?

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I can barely wrap my mind around what you seem to be saying here. Willl keep trying, but I'm curious about why you think a homogenized populace is a desirarable outcome. The MAGA Republicans are homogenized behind their leader. The Evangelicals are supposedly homogenized behind their FATHER in heaven, though I suspect the real unifying factor is whiteness . USians from the late 1940s onward were homogenized by the anti-communistm of Joe McCarthy and others. And of course we have the examples of Mao's China, Hitler's Germany, Stalin's Russia . . .

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Hello Susanna J. Sturgis:

Perhaps the concept of homogenously should have been defined as, “Love thy neighbor as thyself, which is the desirable outcome needed to reunite the United States of America.

Remember now the comment you are referencing cautioned that it would be unpopular. This response is given for a better understanding hopefully.

(1). The Maggot republicans and all those complicit in their silent support of white supremacy’s bigotry not only hate color but also those who support love of neighbor of all colors.

(2). The clan of evangelicals are NOT Christians and do not know about our FATHER in Heaven. Christians are about love not the hate that spews from the frothing quivering lips of evangelicals against their neighbors of every color.

(3). USians, (quaint elocution!) of the 1940’s rallied around the pride of patriotism spurred on by the shared commonality due to anxiety of, “The Wars” and the “Fox-Hole-Effect” affecting American’s during daily preoccupation of the haltered of distant neighbors…

(4). Mao’s China, for just one example, authorization of executing female babies supported by the parents of those female babies certainly was not love of neighbor nor was hitler’s minions of extermination of over eight million jews an expression of neighborly love nor was the Stalinist labor camp referred to as Cannibal Island due to the depravity of cannibalism’s most extreme example hating neighbors.

Hopefully your mind will become calmed by understanding the ONLY WAY America can survive the republican’s slavery to their deceitfulness’ destruction of American Democracy is love of neighbor as oneself… one’s self.

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Thank you! I am going to write to the team and ask if the administration has seen this study. What a national project this could be!

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thank you, Liz!!

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Many thx Liz

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POWER-FULL!!! Thank You Beth!

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Just such a wonderful lesson for us all Beth

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"Yes we do." I have chills that you created/allowed that moment, Beth. I believe that if every one of us with the truth (as best we know it) about the basic challenges (immigration, right to choose, privacy, gay/trans rights, fair taxes has more of these gentle, low-key, human moments, we can change this country for good.

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We have to be nice even though sometimes it is really hard!

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Exactly Beth, you find and go to wherever they are and start there. It's the only way to discuss politics or religion....

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Thank you, Beth. Often, it's the little things that make a difference.

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Nancy Fleming

“Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love.”

Mother Teresa

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It is great, Gary that the managers had some real courage. Who knows how many guns those creeps had in their truck.....??

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And, of course my mind immediately races to the possibility that those maggots will return to the restaurant with guns and open fire. God help us all.

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Maybe Gary Boivin should suggest he get some security, since he knows those people patronize his restaurant……just sayin’.

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The owners have a ton of security, and the waitress belongs to an old, large family in the area.

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Please, grant maggots some dignity and spell the label for such people correctly MAGATS 😂

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Actually, Carol, originally the name suggested by a commenter had great use of lower and upper case letters.

MAGAts.

I see this as quite effective.

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I think I had seen it that way but debated with myself whether since the T and S are also first letters of works the all caps usage is best

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Yes, maggots can be lifesavers.

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I understand they're very useful in removing necrotic tissue

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I prefer "MAGGOTS" myself. Since that word is universally accepted as being something most-lowly...., almost lower than whaleshit. It really conveys that point when in print. Besides, I don't want there to be any mistake!

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Here's another one, I have ordered my spices from Penzeys for years [they have brick and mortar locations too].

After reading the "ABOUT REPUBLICANS" letter they posted on their website, I'll be giving spices for birthday gifts, and going through all of my stock and placing an order to update my mine as well. Hopefully this will offset some of the business they loose from this letter.

https://www.penzeys.com/shop/about-republicans/

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ME TOO!!

I have spices I am giving to my sister for her bday tomorrow!

This great company has so many offers, frequently they have 1/4 cup sizes for $1 or such. When I see that, I purchase whatever the limit is and hand them out. I have had numerous people comment on what a difference these spices are compared to what they can get in the grocery store.

IMHO the ones new customers should try: Chinese Tung Hing Cinnamon (cinnamon is said to help stabilize blood sugar. Sprinkle it on your oatmeal, morning toast, on the pb in your sandwich, and of course, bake with it!) Frozen Pizza spices (really perks up a frozen pizza)

Turkish Oregano (just YUM, use it in so many ways!) "JUSTICE" a spice blend--I love to shake it on Chicken before grilling it, California Pepper Blend (use it anywhere you use pepper, but my favorite is to sprinkle it on scrambled eggs) Chicago Steak Seasoning--excellent for seasoning your steaks, I love it on burgers as well! Fajita mix--I coat chicken strips in it for my fajitas.

Any other reader here who uses Penzeys, what is your favorite?

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Justice is great on salmon too. Use Justice and Parmesan cheese (not theirs, just P.Ch.)! I like their many curries, Fox Point is good, and Tzar Dust, but Northwoods is fabulous and goes on Everything.

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I love that Penzey has such a variety of each spice. See cinnamon for instance, I always use Ceylon Cinnamon. It’s great for cakes, pastries, rice dishes. I just like the basics - Ceylon Cloves for studding hams, sea salt, peppers. I used to grow and make my own Paprika, and Penzey’s Hungarian style is as good as what I made. Vanilla beans for homemade vanilla. I could go on and on, but you get the idea

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Penzeys’s has encouraged me to expand my repertoire!

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Thanks for these tips, Miselle, as I prepare to order a slew of spices from Penzey's!

I did order from them some years ago, but now will make it a point to going forward.

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Agree, sister Lynell! I’m not even a cook, yet they have my long-standing support💙.

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Yay, Sister Ashley!

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Yes, Miselle and runragged, I’m a Penzey’s person, too💙! Bill and family are good people. My fave is probably Frozen Pizza blend — makes pasta dishes and salads all the tastier. Pasta Sprinkle is a close second. They have great gift card sales too ($35 for $50 cards).

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LOVE PENZEY'S, so many great spices and blends and specials! I have hooked several family members on Sandwich Sprinkle. You can use it to make a more complex garlic bread, my niece uses it for her weekly meal prep, and my son's favorite is with butter on hot bowtie pasta. We also use Sunny Paris with olive oil and lemon juice for a grilled chicken marinade. Northwoods is awesome on chicken.

If you have a local store but can't get there before a special ends, you can order online for in-store pickup ($10 minium) and collect it later. My store is out of the way, but worth the trip, so I do this.

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Oh my heart. I posted it on Twitter. A loving way to tell those who are on the wrong path that they are on the wrong path

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I thought so as well - thanks for posting on Twitter.

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Oops, runragged; didn't mean to neglect you who started it "all" about Penzey's. How could we not support this worthy business? You getta spice and you getta a spice...spices for us all!

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I’ve been a loyal customer of Penzey’s for at least 25+ years. Some items I really can’t do without and stock up with all their sales. I’ve worn their pins at women’s marches and used their voting stickers on posters. I’m a big fan. I’m laughing because watching discussion here about this company and everyone talking about their favorite spices and their uses is not something I ever suspected I’d be reading here. Interested in any recipes?

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We are all in this together- I don’t feel neglected at all, though your consideration is kind.

I’d just like to see his letter to go viral!

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I'm on it! Thanks for the stocking stuffer idea....with the letter!!!

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Thank you for posting this link.

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Wow, what a well written piece. He brings up some really good and intelligent points IMO.

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I think of the good will of putting out a sign which says "Hate has no home here." And the courage of making it happen. MAGAs would call this man a "hater" but that would be an example of their specious rhetoric.

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WONDERFUL! Love that restaurant!

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Gary, in your 'on the ground there best judgement', after plenty of 'likes' tonight please show these comments to restaurant owner!

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Of all the "news" that's fit to print, this may be the best yet, Gary. Thanks for posting!

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This eased my anxiety after reading this newsletter. Thank you.💕

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I’ll celebrate with you.

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Wow. Yes, we need to stand up and call out. There is a difference between attacking a person and attacking what a person does. I was reminded of this in a Washington Post comment thread. It's important to remember this. Trump of course takes the low road and we certainly don't want to go there - in that way - too.

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❤️❤️ thank you for sharing. We need a growing collective mass of people willing to stand up to the Bullies.

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Good for the manager! Here in New Mexico we are proud of our multicultural heritage and celebrate our diversity. The MAGA insanity is not widely accepted or supported except in a few areas in the southern part of the state.

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This story made me feel good. I'm starting to see that too, with some members of my family. They are tired of the hateful rhetoric and starting to realize that actions and words have power. I've seen them push back against other people repeating the standard conservative talking points, whether it is country club racism or the downplaying of Trump's continuous breaking of the law. I'm hoping people keep getting sick of the violent, and toxic rhetoric from the GOP and get fed up with the flagrant rule breaking enough that they start to lose elections at the local and state level. We all have way more in common than we have differences.

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PhillyT, thank you especially for your term, "country club racism." I rarely see anyone refer to this version or racism and Anti-Semitism and I often think it is the most insidious and the most damaging because it is acceptable and difficult to call out. And the people who have mastered it are some of movers and shakers of our culture.

I'm not entirely convinced that we are having a change of heart about the MAGA values as much as we are getting sick to death of having to hear about these people every minute of the day and, because I am a good daughter of the South, I have to add that I think a lot of folks are just fed up with someone who is fundamentally TACKY

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Your story really makes me feel good, Philly. Another crack in the impregnable force that once was!

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Great courage on the part of that restaurant manager. It sounds like he reached that one moment when his desperation and fear for his restaurant and our world came to the boiling point and bubbled right over into that brave act. That might be what we need, that combination of desperation and a belief in the sanctity of what we are losing. Think what would happen if every restaurant and store, every public entity just said "No" We'd be in lawsuits for eternity but better lawsuits than Trump's

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We are visiting friends in your lovely state and I have been following this news; your comment brings more hope that things are turning around!

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That's a great sign that people are coming to their senses and recognize the threat that the MAGA Cult Movement is to our Democracy. Yay! We need to vote them OUT!

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Good news.

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