I love you all...I have opted out this week from reading anything...and pray the world stays on its axis. My mom died on Tuesday. It was March 13, 2020 that I last kissed her goodbye as her assisted living went in to lockdown. On March 16,2021 she succumbed to the Covid Confinement. 1 year of lying in bed, looking out a window or sitting…
I love you all...I have opted out this week from reading anything...and pray the world stays on its axis. My mom died on Tuesday. It was March 13, 2020 that I last kissed her goodbye as her assisted living went in to lockdown. On March 16,2021 she succumbed to the Covid Confinement. 1 year of lying in bed, looking out a window or sitting in a chair...all day...took its grim toll. I was scheduled for my second shot and an arrival visit Mom date of April 8. My heart hurts. She counts as a casualty of this virus, please don’t forget our elders.
Betty, when my brother passed, alone in a hospital bed I cried because I was not with him when he left. When the tears began to dry, I found him again, and see him every day, in clearing skies, streams and leaves dancing, river water ripples and the cadence of a passing stranger’s voice. I hope you find your mother, a communion with her in some shared love. First, and always, love. Heartfelt condolences, Betty.
R Dooley, that is beautiful. Twice in the past week, I've been shown the poem, "When I Die, Give Me Away", by Merrit Malloy. One of those times may have been on these pages; I don't recall where I first saw it. But your sentiments brought it to mind again. Thank you.
Betty, so sorry for your loss. Loss is so much harder with not having had the opportunity to be there in person to lend comfort. The fact that you are here in this group means that your mother clearly raised a wonderful person. May your fond memories help ease your pain.
Dear girl, I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. I can't imagine how much you hurt right now. I lost my own mother some years ago, under better circumstances, and the grief was terrible. Yet, as R Dooley says so beautifully below, I saw and heard her everywhere, and I still do. Love is everything. You are in a loving community here. I reach out to you with comfort and love.
I am so sorry for your loss and the extra layer of “what if’s” that came with it so near to your second dose of the vaccination and planned visitation date. I’m on your schedule to see my 96 year old dad who lives across the country from me and I haven’t been with for 16 months. I will think of you and hold you and your mother in my heart, Betty.
This morning I awoke to a new day and my inbox was flooded with HCR Community Love. Thank you dear friends for the hug. Your words of strength, kindness and love give me hope for this world and peace in my heart.
Betty, I could not be with my husband last fall when he died of ALS just a week before the election. I truly understand the pain you feel of not being to visit frequently and wrap loving arms around your mom. But she knew. She knew and felt your love every day. Hat she made it a whole year is testement to the strength of your love and caring for her.
As my wonderful Jewish friends would say, may her name forever be a blessing.
Ih Betty, what a sad loss, the most painful loss, your Mom.... and in such a cruel way to have to let her go. I ache for you, and will pray that she is close enough that you will feel her with you forever...she will be there. Just close your eyes and let her hold you, as we all will, with our hearts....
Betty 🥺 — sending extra hugs for you tonight on the vernal equinox and hoping you will regain equilibrium before too long. May your mother’s memory always be called for blessings.
Condolences to you and your family. I left my home when Covid shutdowns began, and stayed with my dear mother for 8 months in her home as she slowly slipped away. It is never easy, and I am sure your mother had many wonderful memories to review in her last days. 💖
Allow me to add my wishes and condolences to this loving chorus of sympathy. Not much to add to the beautiful sentiments expressed here. The tragedy of this virus has touched us all in varying degrees. Your experience, and others like it, is the cruelest of them all. My heartfelt prayer for you and your family is one the Dutch always wish in such moments: "sterkte", "strength". May it help ground you through these coming days and weeks. And may the warm, loving memory of your mom enfold you and keep you and yours strong. God be with you.
Oh precious being. My heart lurched and sank reading this. There are never words available to express. Huge, huge hugs. If you ever need someone to just listen I am on WhatsApp so calls are free.
I love you all...I have opted out this week from reading anything...and pray the world stays on its axis. My mom died on Tuesday. It was March 13, 2020 that I last kissed her goodbye as her assisted living went in to lockdown. On March 16,2021 she succumbed to the Covid Confinement. 1 year of lying in bed, looking out a window or sitting in a chair...all day...took its grim toll. I was scheduled for my second shot and an arrival visit Mom date of April 8. My heart hurts. She counts as a casualty of this virus, please don’t forget our elders.
Betty, when my brother passed, alone in a hospital bed I cried because I was not with him when he left. When the tears began to dry, I found him again, and see him every day, in clearing skies, streams and leaves dancing, river water ripples and the cadence of a passing stranger’s voice. I hope you find your mother, a communion with her in some shared love. First, and always, love. Heartfelt condolences, Betty.
I’m fairly certain this is one of the most beautiful pieces of writing I’ve had the privilege to read, Mr. Dooley.
Tears for the losses. Tears for the beauty. Tears for their names forever being a blessings. Wrapping all in an everlasting hug of love.
R Dooley, that is beautiful. Twice in the past week, I've been shown the poem, "When I Die, Give Me Away", by Merrit Malloy. One of those times may have been on these pages; I don't recall where I first saw it. But your sentiments brought it to mind again. Thank you.
A beautiful poem that I hadn't read - thank you for sharing it.
Condolences for the loss of your brother I agree with Shannon, very moving and beautiful sentiment.
Betty, so sorry for your loss. Loss is so much harder with not having had the opportunity to be there in person to lend comfort. The fact that you are here in this group means that your mother clearly raised a wonderful person. May your fond memories help ease your pain.
Dear girl, I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. I can't imagine how much you hurt right now. I lost my own mother some years ago, under better circumstances, and the grief was terrible. Yet, as R Dooley says so beautifully below, I saw and heard her everywhere, and I still do. Love is everything. You are in a loving community here. I reach out to you with comfort and love.
I am so sorry for your loss and the extra layer of “what if’s” that came with it so near to your second dose of the vaccination and planned visitation date. I’m on your schedule to see my 96 year old dad who lives across the country from me and I haven’t been with for 16 months. I will think of you and hold you and your mother in my heart, Betty.
This morning I awoke to a new day and my inbox was flooded with HCR Community Love. Thank you dear friends for the hug. Your words of strength, kindness and love give me hope for this world and peace in my heart.
Betty, I could not be with my husband last fall when he died of ALS just a week before the election. I truly understand the pain you feel of not being to visit frequently and wrap loving arms around your mom. But she knew. She knew and felt your love every day. Hat she made it a whole year is testement to the strength of your love and caring for her.
As my wonderful Jewish friends would say, may her name forever be a blessing.
A Woman of Valor. My deepest condolences.
Ih Betty, what a sad loss, the most painful loss, your Mom.... and in such a cruel way to have to let her go. I ache for you, and will pray that she is close enough that you will feel her with you forever...she will be there. Just close your eyes and let her hold you, as we all will, with our hearts....
March 13th, my Daddy's death too. Now that I am old too, thank you. Love and embrace.
Betty 🥺 — sending extra hugs for you tonight on the vernal equinox and hoping you will regain equilibrium before too long. May your mother’s memory always be called for blessings.
Oh God, I am so very sorry. Yes, a casualty. And I will not forget, ever.
Condolences to you and your family. I left my home when Covid shutdowns began, and stayed with my dear mother for 8 months in her home as she slowly slipped away. It is never easy, and I am sure your mother had many wonderful memories to review in her last days. 💖
Oh honey. I’m so saddened by your mom’s story. Thanks for sharing it Betty. She is eternally blessed by you.
Crushing. I am so sorry.
Allow me to add my wishes and condolences to this loving chorus of sympathy. Not much to add to the beautiful sentiments expressed here. The tragedy of this virus has touched us all in varying degrees. Your experience, and others like it, is the cruelest of them all. My heartfelt prayer for you and your family is one the Dutch always wish in such moments: "sterkte", "strength". May it help ground you through these coming days and weeks. And may the warm, loving memory of your mom enfold you and keep you and yours strong. God be with you.
Oh precious being. My heart lurched and sank reading this. There are never words available to express. Huge, huge hugs. If you ever need someone to just listen I am on WhatsApp so calls are free.
I am so sorry for your heartbreaking loss Betty. May your mom's memory be a blessing to you and all who loved her.